Wow! Getting married at 19 is very young. Trust me, I know! I realized
you just don't know yourself yet at that young age! I am a completely
different person now than when I was 19, even different than I was five
years ago. I really don't condone getting a divorce but for me it was
what I needed to do to be healthy and get out of a situation that just
wasn't right for me. I was young and went against my parents, too. Although they didn't disown me, they were very upset with me! I stayed in
the relationship to prove to others that I was going to make it work! That wasn't for the right reasons. I'm sure if you expressed interest in
wanting to get out of an unhappy situation, your family would come
back and help you! I have definitely realized that when you think your
parents are being harsh and unfair, sometimes they are right and you
are too young and inexperienced to realize what's going on. It's worth a
shot of reaching out! If they still don't support you, then you need to
be true to yourself and realize you made a grown up decision to get
married and if you want out, you need to make a grown up decision to
get yourself out of it on your own! You can do it! You got married on
your own and you can get out of it on your own. Just be strong and
follow your heart! Life is too short to be unhappy!
Be strong,
Kim
Hi Kimmy,
Congrats on all of your achievements. I think that you're a great person with a big heart. I've recently come across an interview you did back in 2007 and you mentioned that you married young and learned from your mistakes. I got married when I was 19 and I'm 23 now. I've been married for nearly four years. Though I've chosen to marry against my parents' will, I don't remember the last time I've been happy with him. I've learned we have so many differences and I am struggling to get out of this marriage. I don't know what to do. My parents have disowned me, I've got no love and support from my family, so I would really appreciate your input on this. You're my idol, and I wish I can one day have the courage and strength you had to move on with your life and put your mistakes behind you. Love you heaps... AND PLZ REPLY TO THIS. I'LL FOREVER BE GRATEFUL!
From,
Anonymous
Be strong,
Kim
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Hi Kimmy,
Congrats on all of your achievements. I think that you're a great person with a big heart. I've recently come across an interview you did back in 2007 and you mentioned that you married young and learned from your mistakes. I got married when I was 19 and I'm 23 now. I've been married for nearly four years. Though I've chosen to marry against my parents' will, I don't remember the last time I've been happy with him. I've learned we have so many differences and I am struggling to get out of this marriage. I don't know what to do. My parents have disowned me, I've got no love and support from my family, so I would really appreciate your input on this. You're my idol, and I wish I can one day have the courage and strength you had to move on with your life and put your mistakes behind you. Love you heaps... AND PLZ REPLY TO THIS. I'LL FOREVER BE GRATEFUL!
From,
Anonymous
STEPHANIE (NY) says: | Reply
~~~KIM~~~
THIS ADVICE U GAVE THIS YOUNG LADY WAS VERY HELPFUL HOPEFULLY SHE TAKES THIS INTO CONSIDERATION AND GETS OUT THIS NASTY SITUATION OK.... I DON'T KNOW HOW IT FEELS TO BE MARRIED BUT I ONCE LIVED WITH MY BOYFRIEND FOR 6 MONTHS, YEA WE LOVED EACH OTHER AND LOVE EACH OTHER STILL (AGAIN) BUT IN THE MIX OF EVERYTHING WHEN UR NOT READY UR JUST NOT READY BECAUSE EVEN THOUGH WE GOT ALONG AT TIMES WE STILL HAD OUR HUGE FIGHTS AND ARGUMENTS. THE BEST THING FOR ME TO DO WAS COME BACK HOME AND IT WAS A TIME WHEN MY MOM DIDNT WANT ME TO COME BACK BUT AT THE END OF IT ALL THE ONLY PERSON THAT WAS THERE TO HELP ME WAS MY MOM, SO SHE MIGHT DISOWN U FOR A WHILE BUT SHE WILL NEVER DISOWN U FOREVER, SHES PROBABLY JUST MAD THAT HER LIL GIRL GOT MARRIED AND IT WASN'T THE WAY SHE PROBABLY THOUGHT IT WOULD HAPPEN....I HOPE SHE SEES THIS AND THINKS ABOUT IT BECAUSE ITS NEVER TO LATE TRUST ME ONE OF MY FRIENDS WAS WITH HER BOYFRIEND FOR 10 YRS. AND THEY BROKE UP THE OTHER DAY AND SHE SAYS SHES NOT GOING BACK AND SHES BEING DEAD SERIOUS I KNOW SHES FOR REAL SO IF SHE CAN ANYONE CAN
CIAO
MEXICAN PRINCESS says: | Reply
I TOTALLY AGREE WITH KIM. SOMETIMES WE DONT MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICES AND THATS SOMETHING THAT WE HAVE TO DEAL WITH. I THINK NO MATTER HOW MAD YOUR PARENTS ARE THEY WILL ALWAYS BE THERE. PARENTS SOMETIMES GET UPSET BECAUSE THEY CANT MAKE US CHANGE OUR MIND ON WHAT THEY ALREADY KNOW IS WRONG...I THINK THAT IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY ITS BEST TO END IT AND ONCE YOUR PARENTS SEE THAT YOU REALIZED IT WAS WRONG THEY WILL BE THERE FOR YOU! =D
GOOD LUCK DOLL!
Miss Meliss says: | Reply
I know everybody is different, but I DEFINITELY wasn't ready to be married at 19! lol. Good advice though Kim :)
I can't think of anything I could do that would be bad enough for my family to disown me, thank GOD. They've put up with a lot, but I think it has made our relationship stronger. Being married (in my opinion) is not something to mess around with, and I do believe you should try EVERYTHING in your power to make a marriage work. If all else fails, fine. But at least you can walk out knowing that you tried your hardest.
xoxo
sc says: | Reply
thats good!
Hey kim can you let us know the gold chandelier earrings you wear?
thank!
natasha says: | Reply
Sassy's a freeken idiot. Shutup don't talk to my Kimmy like that!!
sassy says: | Reply
hmmm... you have made mistake after mistake since you were 19... I am wondering when it will stop. Now you just sound like a desperate little girl hoping and praying that Reggie will marry you.
natasha says: | Reply
hi
tinabwms says: | Reply
You really give great advice. I met my husband at age 19, but we did not get married until a few years later. You really need that time to get to know yourself and to grow in the relationship.
I love your site and I am a huge fan. I love getting regular updates on what is going on with you.
Denise K says: | Reply
This is good advice! I was married at 20 and a mother at 21. A few years later I realized that it was not a healthy situation for me or my son but I was also dealing with my beliefs and morals. I had a hard time dealing with a divorce. My mother is old fashioned too so divorce was also unheard of. In the end enough was enough and I chose to be happy and have a healthy life and environment to both me and my son
Anonymous says: | Reply
FIRST!!!!
Liana says: | Reply
Hi Kim
At First sorry for my English,,,I am Armenian...I know you are Armenian too..
I only want to ask you..
Dont you want to come To Armenia To veesit us...
It will be the best surprise for Armenain people:)))
Liana says: | Reply
Hi Kim
At First sorry for my English,,,I am Armenian...I know you are Armenian too..
I only want to ask you..
Dont you qant to come To ArmeniaTo veesit us...
It will be the best surprise for Armenain people:)))
Hayley says: | Reply
When fans need you you can be so wise and comforting. You are a good person Charlie Brown!!!
Mirela says: | Reply
Hey Kim!
I've met you before in Minneapolis Aqua and I must say you are so gorgeous!
Could you tell me what your daily routine is as far as skincare and make up go...
What cleanser and creams do you use and what brand of make up and how do you apply it....
Thanks so much and stay gorgeous!!
Kamila says: | Reply
Waaw! i just visit your sight for the first time in a while, and wat a surprise you responded to my plea for advice. I think i sent it AGEZ AGO...but hey THANKS SO MUCH KIM. Really appreciated your honest advice. And thanks to everyone else who left me a comment. Things are looking up for me now...got a job offered to me in UK...so hopefully this is gonna be where we split.... Jst cant wait to move on
KIMMY!....ur awesome, and i wish you every success...you deserve it babygirl
Cheers,
Princess Ashley says: | Reply
I couldn't have said it better myself! <3
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