Sometimes parents just don’t understand
Today I am posting two ‘Kim to the Rescue’ items because they are totally related. Read on to see what I mean…
Kim,
Your advice is amazing. I’m half Italian and half Middle Eastern. My parents will never understand. I have been dating the love of my life on-and-off for six years… He happens to be black. Any advice on how to break the news to them without them disowning me?
(By the way: Not every guy cheats. If I were a guy, and I had someone as incredible as you, I would never cheat. Reggie seems like an amazing man. Perfect couple.)
Sincerely,
MiddleEasternPrincess
Hey Kim,
I have some of the same issues. I have a dad that’s Iranian, and he doesn’t care about the race of people I date. But for some reason, my mom really wants me to date an Iranian guy because they don’t believe in divorce. I think just because someone doesn’t believe in divorce, that should be the only reason to marry them. I haven’t ever really been attracted to an Iranian guy. And for some reason I just don’t think I ever will be. I’m usually attracted to white guys just because that is who I have grown up around. My cousin is getting married soon, and his fiancee has a really attractive brother. He’s white, and I really like him. Do you think I should go for it, or do you think I shouldn’t? We aren’t going to be first cousins or anything, so that really isn’t an issue. I really need advice…
From,
Shaydah
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Great advice Kimmie it makes me wanna spill the beans to my parents too lol, I am catholic and my boyfriend is no religion and my parents have always wanted me to marry a catholic man that share the same believes as THEY do!
I am white and I have been dating a guy who is half black and half white. We’ve been dating for 3 years. My parents were completely against the idea of me dating someone who is half black. I lived a completely separate life that I couldn’t talk to them about. They eventually came around and now they love him. I knew they would if they just got to know him. You can’t help who you love. Who cares what anyone else thinks. Follow your heart and everything will work out in the end!
Kim,
I’m not really sure that I agree with your advice to MiddleEasternPrincess. Not everyone’s parents are as open and understanding as yours. I have parents like hers and if I dated outside of the race they want me to date, they would really disown me. They would stop talking to me because they don’t approve of that. I love my parents and all, but it is my choice who I date, it’s my life. So when I’m dating someone outside of my race (which I do often, because that’s what I prefer), I just don’t tell them. I don’t know what I’d do in MiddleEasternPrincess’ situation since it’s a serious relationship. Whatever she decides, stay strong and good luck.
I do agree with the advice you gave to Shaydah. Asking the fiancee out shouldn’t cause that many problems, it’s just dating, but if/when it gets serious, stay strong and good luck!
I’m a black south african girl and I’ve dated people of all races. Take it from me growing up in a country where we were divided by race for so long and so many people in my generation (20-30) have parents who were affected by apartheid and those who supported it. It’s really hard to break those barriers or stereotypes.
At the end of the day a human connection goes beyond language, skin colour and background. All of those things just aren’t good enough reasons to last and truly love somebody. It really is about a deep connection with an individual that you feel you see yourself in and who inspires us to be better/ the best we can and who takes you and loves u for who you are. That’s the only thing that matters.
I say just go with the connections you feel in your soul.
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but you got jungle Fever!
& for the people needed advice go for it!
I have a similar problem to Shaydah.
Kim
My dad wants me to marry an Armenian but my mother does not mind. i have seen my sister go through hell just because she went out with a non Armenian. she eventually dumped her guy that was PERFECT for her and has been through a series of bad relationships with Armenian guys. not all Armenian families are like this. but my family is strict about it and i really dont want to narrow things down to only Armenian guys. Im not saying i WONT go out with them, never say never, but my sister has had a hard time with my dad when she dates non armenians. i dont want to go through the same thing as her…
i seem to like white guys a bit more, my dad would never understand!
any advice Kim?
x
Great advice. It’s a shame that some parents think that religion and personal beliefs and values should be pushed upon their children. I personally haven’t had a problem, being white with no “real” religion, but I have friends whose parents think they have to marry a Jew or Catholic because that’s the “right” thing to do. It’s awful seeing what kind of pressure parents are putting their children through these days instead of letting them spread their wings and make their own decisions.
Follow your hearts and don’t let anyone decide who is best for you in your life; after all, you’re the one living it.
to middle eastern princess… make sure you are absolutely in love with your man and if you are, then just go 4 it! There is probably going to be a LOT of drama, and months of not talking, BUT if he is worth it, then go for it, cuz he will be there with you as you grow old.. you know what i mean. I’m in the SAME exact situation. And my parents are Super SUper strict on that issue!
great advice kim!!you rock
ur last post was SO HUMBLE AND MODEST KIM!