Dear Kim,

You always seem to have confidence in yourself. I, however, lack confidence. Everyone says that I’m a pretty girl, but I feel that I’m not. Whenever I’m with my friends, they always get more attention from guys… and they aren’t “all-that” great looking. I’ve got personality, and they don’t. I always find myself comparing their body types to mine, because they are size zeroes, and that makes me think that guys always go for the thin ones. How can I stop comparing and start to feel comfortable in my own skin and feel more confident?

Sincerely,

Not Confident

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  1. aline  |   Posted on Jul 28th, 2008

    Hi Kim, how can I post you a question?
    Love you

  2. kiki  |   Posted on Jul 30th, 2008

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    Some one said she’s a jewish girl, is she?
    They said she’s seeking a jewish mature man to be boyfriend on a big 40plus, 50plus jewish dating site named [ [ [ JSenior Match ] ] ].

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  3. Nini   |   Posted on Jul 30th, 2008

    Dear Kim,
    I am asian and I always admire your style and confidence.You also are very succesful businesswoman.I always love modelling and acting,so I need your advise on how to get started,the right agency or even the right agent that might help me geting started.
    Appreciate your advise.Thank you

  4. YARI  |   Posted on Aug 1st, 2008

    HI KIM WELL I HAVE A PROBLEM WITH
    CONFIDENCE A LOT OF PEOPLE SAY IM BEAUTIFUL BUT I DONT THINK SOO
    I HAVE RELLY THICK LEGS N A BIG AZZ AND ON TOP OF THAT IM SHORT A LOT OF GUY THAT TALK 2 ME TALK 2 ME BECAUSE OF MA AZZ AND I HATE GOING TO DA BEACH OR THE POOL BECAUSE I HAVE A LOT OF CELULITS

  5. Shmily  |   Posted on Aug 6th, 2008

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    I am Shmily, 42 years old girl, living in New York. Last month I met my boyfriend on a 40+ singles dating site. It is so nice for me. But my girlfriends Julia, Galina, Irina did not find thier love. What are you waitting for?? Come on, nice guys. See their photos @ [ http://www.JSeniorMatch.com ] ASAP.

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  6. That’s cool of you, Kim, to give good advice. By the way you’re family is awesome too!

  7. Hi Kim,

    I have this really close friend of mine who is constantly comparing herself to me. Shes even gone as far as measuring her legs, waist etc.. to me and has even cried because she wanted to look different. It’s starting to be too much and I don’t want to hurt her feelings. What should I do? Have you been through something similar?
    -Thx luv ya
    Ash

  8. girlinterrupted  |   Posted on Sep 29th, 2008

    Kim,
    i read what you said and i used to have a lot of confidence in myself and i still dont compare myself to anyone, but i still cant help but hate the way i look. i feel so ugly. i look at you and your sisters and how beautiful all of you are.. and i just think about when i used to have that body and used to dream of being a model thinking i could make it.. now.. i know it’ll never happen and that hurts so much knowing im too ugly now for it.. ill admit a lot of things have caused it let alone i gained weight and now have stretch marks(i was pregnant then had a miscarriage) like all over my body which makes me that much worse.. then i have all my other issues as well.. i have a boyfriend who wants to marry me one day and he says im beautiful no matter what i or anyone says.. but it doesnt help.. i seriously dont know what to do anymore..
    please write me back if u can

  9. kim i luv u n ur sisters. i h8 seeing khloe down on herself cuz of wat ppl say. shes so beautiful. i dnt think shes fat at all! how do u show confidence when u dnt have it? ppl r constantly tellin me im fat n when i say i am i get told im not…any advice?

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